Scientists just discovered proof of living organisms from 3.5 billion years ago. Fuck!
I can't even wrap my brain around 35,000 years.
This is amazing and also very humbling.
Not many of us will make a difference in the world. We can only make a difference in the immediate few around us. It is important to be nice to people.
This past weekend we hung out with some new people, and it was a blast. Its been a long time since Matt and I have hung out with someone that really gets our sense of humor. The person with whom we got to hang out, recently lost his daughter to cancer. Its a rare cancer, so much that I'm too lame to remember the name of it. It causes small tumors up and down the spine and brain stem. Oddly enough we have also recently become friends with another woman who's spouse died of this same type of cancer two years ago.
I feel like a heel, because I have met this guy once before. He is great, and when I met him the first time his daughter was alive. She has since passed, and I didn't know what to say. Do I bring it up? This is only the second time I've been in the same room with him. Do I tell him how very sorry I am, when I cannot imagine the pain that he has endured for the past several years, through her treatments?
I did not.
I am an asshole.
I chose the path of least resistance and that was to not say anything. I didn't say 'I'm so sorry' or 'how very terrible' because what if he was just trying to have a good time and not think about shit for a few minutes? What if he wanted to hang out with people that had never met his daughter? What if he wanted to NOT talk about cancer for a fucking second?
These are all of the excuses I made in my head for not stopping the laughing, for a god damned second, and saying 'hey guy, I'm sorry and it sucks so hard'.
It does suck, all of it.
Why a seven year old girl?
I know it sounds heartless to all adults that have cancer, but it just sucks so much more, when you hear about the death of a child.
The fact that we, as a race, are still thriving, is in of itself something very cool. We may not all make a difference to the earth or the landscape or the other people living an ocean, state or city away from us. But we can be nice to each other. I do struggle with this sometimes. In my narrow view of the world, I have my own shit going on. But I will try to be nice, and to acknowledge that everyone is going through hard stuff. It may not be the same type of hard, but it is shitty just the same.
We are not special, but we can try to make each other feel a little better about a bad day.
This is amazing and also very humbling.
Not many of us will make a difference in the world. We can only make a difference in the immediate few around us. It is important to be nice to people.
This past weekend we hung out with some new people, and it was a blast. Its been a long time since Matt and I have hung out with someone that really gets our sense of humor. The person with whom we got to hang out, recently lost his daughter to cancer. Its a rare cancer, so much that I'm too lame to remember the name of it. It causes small tumors up and down the spine and brain stem. Oddly enough we have also recently become friends with another woman who's spouse died of this same type of cancer two years ago.
I feel like a heel, because I have met this guy once before. He is great, and when I met him the first time his daughter was alive. She has since passed, and I didn't know what to say. Do I bring it up? This is only the second time I've been in the same room with him. Do I tell him how very sorry I am, when I cannot imagine the pain that he has endured for the past several years, through her treatments?
I did not.
I am an asshole.
I chose the path of least resistance and that was to not say anything. I didn't say 'I'm so sorry' or 'how very terrible' because what if he was just trying to have a good time and not think about shit for a few minutes? What if he wanted to hang out with people that had never met his daughter? What if he wanted to NOT talk about cancer for a fucking second?
These are all of the excuses I made in my head for not stopping the laughing, for a god damned second, and saying 'hey guy, I'm sorry and it sucks so hard'.
It does suck, all of it.
Why a seven year old girl?
I know it sounds heartless to all adults that have cancer, but it just sucks so much more, when you hear about the death of a child.
The fact that we, as a race, are still thriving, is in of itself something very cool. We may not all make a difference to the earth or the landscape or the other people living an ocean, state or city away from us. But we can be nice to each other. I do struggle with this sometimes. In my narrow view of the world, I have my own shit going on. But I will try to be nice, and to acknowledge that everyone is going through hard stuff. It may not be the same type of hard, but it is shitty just the same.
We are not special, but we can try to make each other feel a little better about a bad day.
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